She Said He Said

Good evening, darlings. I’ve been meaning to create a post like this for a while, but lately, I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather. And here it is ladies and gents… There are typically things you should never ever comment on when it comes to people in recovery with eating disorders. Among these things are:

The amount a person is eating

How the person eats

The way the recoveree approach fear foods (everyone has their own that works for them)

Mocking the things said person is eating (teasing is a terrible approach)

Making comments like “Woah, you ate all that?” “How did you fit all that in there?” “You don’t even look anorexic (bulimic, have an eating disorder)”

Commenting on the way the person looks. (Appearance is a main factor to why people want to lose weight)

Telling the person that what they are doing is not good enough or they can try harder. (Most people with EDs have perfectionistic traits and wish to satisfy mostly everyone)

Pushing food on them if they aren’t ready to try it yet

Commenting on their growing sizes in clothes

Mocking their fear foods

Insinuating their disorder is hard on you or that their recovery is reeking havoc in your life

Asking the person to change their appointments for your personal gain (i.e. because you want to see them or because you want to visit them last minute)

The list can go on, however, there are obviously exceptions to these rules. I do not wish to be taken out of context, so I would like to take this opportunity to explain myself a bit further. For example, if you comment on the recoveree not eating enough, do it in a way that isn’t brash or threatening. The eating disorder will only rebel and wish to eat less just to spite you. In short, if the recoveree seems to be reverting back to old habits and or rituals, by all means, ensue helping them. However, do it in a way that isn’t threatening or berating. In time, he/she will adapt to the changes. From personal experience, comments make it almost impossible to recover. If you think about it, those comments are the same comments their ED dictates in their thoughts. Comments or stares from others are the equivalent of their ED. Please be kind and don’t be the physical being of ED. Until next time, try to help someone out of a difficult situation, lads. 🙂

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2 responses to “She Said He Said

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